nvm.

10:40 pm  •  24 May 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

I just wanted to thank you! You know I don’t think you realize how much you inspire me. I am so proud of the person you’ve become and are becoming. I understand you’ve been through a lot and you’ve made not the best of choices, but I can see that you have grown.

Though truthfully I’ve always known from the very first time I met you to now, that you were a strong person.

You are so full of wisdom about life that when you speak it really makes me think that I could stay there forever just to listen to your open mind, for it is peaceful and inviting.

Babe, you have become my awakening, you have helped me see things in a brighter way, In a happier, enlightening way. For I was once drowning from my own fears, completely cynical about love, about hope and security. I used to think that no one understood me and could ever.

Then one day before I knew you personally, you flew into my thoughts and at that moment though I wasn’t truly sure why you were there. Suddenly I felt reassured and a smile was brought to my heart. Somehow I believe deep down I knew I loved you then.

When I got to know you a year later I realized I wasn’t alone and that something inside of you was hurting similar to what constantly brought tears to my eyes. I went through a time in my life where I felt worthless unloved, continuously searching for happiness, leaving me stuck in the middle, stressfully trying to pull things together.

But, you made me laugh and forget everything that was going on. That year you became my escape, my survival. I don’t think I could of made it through that year as strong as I did if you weren’t in my life.

Babe, I thank you for all the fun times we spent together even if they were short lived. Now over the years I have come to this conclusion you must have been an angel sent by God to help me grieve and become a strong willed woman because no one has ever been able to help me see the light. Clouds of darkness shadowed over me no matter what any other soul would say, but you make me smile with just your presence.

You don’t have to say a word; everything’s okay when you’re beside me. You know I thank God every day for the amazing people he has brought into my life because each and every one of them has changed my life in a very beautiful dramatic way.

And I believe people are brought into your life for a reason, a way in which to guide you and help you see yourself. I like to call all those wonderful people my angels, my earthly angels. You are one, and I thank you once again from the bottom of my heart. And though we may never be, just know you will always live in my heart. 

Love always,

Marie

11:40 am  •  24 May 2012  •  View comments

This post was inspired by reading Professor Martin Seligman’s book ‘Learned Optimism’ and watching a clip of a ‘celebrity’ (gosh I don’t like that word lol!!!) being interviewed. It came to a segment during the interview, where he/she stated, if people don’t like me, WHAT DO I DO?

That stuck like glue!!! Let’s look at the facts, ‘YOU CAN’T BE LIKED BY EVERYONE’and you certainly don’t like everyone (that may be controversial), so the sooner you understand this principle, the happier you would be.

No matter how hard you try to impress certain people, they can’t/won’t like you. It could be very painful at times, particularly when you mean well, but such are the challenges of life.

I hold a strong opinion of making conscious efforts to meet people, make friends, be nice, open……. Instances where your gestures aren’t acknowledged or welcomed, shake the dust off your feet, lift up your head, and move on to better or higher territories.

The twist in this topic is you may be disliked for behaving in ways which are acceptable by societal standards/judgements or be disliked for your nasty character and bad habits. So what do you do, where do you turn to? 

People may not like you for the following reasons:

• You are better than them.
• You are very confident.
• You work hard
• They are envious of you.
• You smile or laugh a lot
• You are very lousy and can’t be trusted.
• You are totally disrespectful
• Your descent, race, colour, upbringing, social circles…….
• You are rich, poor, educated, uneducated.
• You speak funny, straight or posh.
• Your views on issues are logical and rational.
• You are too big, fat, tall, short, thin…..
• You are good looking or ugly.
• You’ve got a decent job.
• You are a fussy eater
• You move within a certain class of society.
• You are unhelpful.
• You are snobbish…..

The list is endless, but the concept of this post is to suggest certain attributes to develop, steps to take in order to handle matters which relate to you being liked or disliked.

Your aim should be to find at least one useful tip which aids your personal development.

In no particular order, here are 46 Things To Do, When People Don’t Like You.

• Get on with your life believing there would be opportunities for you to meet people who would warmly embrace or accept you.
• Just be yourself, accept who you are by living a life of authenticity, remembering you can’t be liked by every one.
• Move a step further from accepting yourself to loving who you are.
• Examine your life to see if there are areas that require a constructive change.
• Build up your self confidence.
• Develop good habits or manners and for heavens sake, work on those bad, filthy or annoying habits ranging from……(you know them)
• Understand that people relate with each other if they possess the same ideals, character, thoughts, goals…..
• Be open to change.
• Keep Your Ego In Check. Some times your ego comes in conflict with who you really are.
• Celebrate your strengths and have a positive attitude. That’s what makes you distinguished and if some people don’t like it, OTHERS will.
• Meet new people, make new friends.
• Say positive things about who you are.
• Try doing simple things.
• Be content and happy with those who love or adore you and cherish all those memorable moments.
• Spend a lot of time with the people you love.
• Show constructive optimism in everything you do.
• Don’t lower your standards or compromise your moral compass to please the people in question.
• Deal with your vulnerability.
• Give people time to get to know you better.
• Be Proactive. Be moderately proactive and plan carefully for what you want to achieve.
• Learn to improve on your art of communication.
• Smile or simply walk away.
• Just enjoy yourself and be happy.
• Think positively and highly of yourself.
• Keep working hard, being truthful, showing love, ……….
• Stop pushing yourself on people, trying to be in their faces all the time.
• In some cases do more listening, less talk.
• Stop comparing yourself to others.It’s very important you carve out your identity, style and avoid comparing your life to those around you.
• Don’t contemplate doing anything dangerous/silly which could inflict harm on you physically, emotionally etc. You are unique in your own way.
• Avoid slandering or promoting gossip about the people in question.
• Always maintain your dignity and self respect.
• Resist the temptation to put down one’s hobbies/desires.
• You can use your time wisely and productively
• It might be a sign to improve on your physical appearance sensibly such as combing your hair, brushing your teeth lol!!!, having a bath, wearing decent clothes……..
• If it gets to a stage you are abused, report to the higher authorities such as the police, teachers, managers etc. I want to stress if you are bullied in school, inform your parents, report it to your teachers. If you are bullied at work and there’s concrete evidence, report it to your line manager.
• Ensure you aren’t trapped into doing things you aren’t comfortable with (i.e. wrong) in order to gain favour.
• Avoid bragging about who you are or what you’ve done. That just makes it worse.
• Don’t forget your sense of humour and use it to your advantage.
• Keep building your self esteem.
• Don’t be too hard on yourself.

The last section of this post would be devoted to people who have been hurt as a result of close members of the family i.e parents, sister, brother, spouses..openly showing so much disgust and dislike to you. At times you may be at fault or they are simply………

• Talk to someone about it. You may consider seeking professional help.
• Be humble, apologise and seek an opportunity for reconciliation if the problem stems from you.
• Reach out to your family even if you get rejected. It’s tough; it hurts but please make an attempt.
• Avoid turning to dangerous drugs, to push away the painful thoughts you may have. If you’ve started please see a professional.
• Find hope somewhere in your heart believing your current situation will take a turn for the better
• ABOVE ALL BE A SURVIVOR IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.

What would you do, when people don’t like you?

I look forward to your comments and suggestions.

6:45 am  •  30 April 2012  •  2 notes  •  View comments

Today, I woke up @ 3am for an early easter mass with my mom and my younger

sister, sans my papa whose on an athletic event for 3 days as a coach in New

Bataan ( which is a 2 hour bus-ride from our town. ) Right after the mass, I took

a power nap for me to redeem my energy   ( if you must know, I only slept for

two hours).

So, I got up around 10:30 am and satisfied! Next thing, I texted Hannah;

my kababata, whom I’ve never seen for a very long time (like 7 months already)

and she lives only a block away from my home. I told her I’d like

to visit her today, So I went there, I was welcomed by her mom, and offered us

some chichiria’s while we were having a good time chitchating, ( I’m glad i got a

chance to spend time with her in everything, I missed her so much, and her

stories :) 

My other friend texted  Lawrece; and asked me where I was that time, I texted

him back, I said I’m at hannah’s and he should come over. He said OK!

Lawrence and Hannah are also good friends/college classmates, he also brought

with him EJ ( his Ex-lovah) who is also a close friend of ours (my barkada actually)

Afterward, the four of us spent our time in the house’s frontyard, talkin’ bout each

other’s present lives, studies and Love.

(like the usual Barkada’s topic after a very long time of not seeing each other.)

Hannah decided to spend her birthday with us in advance, it’s supposed to be on

the 12th but unfortunately, I’m already in Davao by that time, and Lawrence

needs to go back to iligan tomorrow for his enrollment. So her Papa prepared a  

Mango Float for us, Fried chicken, Soft drinks and an Ice cream; just a simple  

celebration na nakakabusog naman talaga :) and ofcourse picture-taking for the

whole time.

That’s Ej ( Left ), Lawrence ( Center ), and Hanna ( The Birthday Girl )

Seriously, i hate being disturbed. 

My Enchong Dee and Me on Duck Face :*

The Red Head chick. EJ.

That’s how I look when I’m hungry.

Hey you! stop texting.

l

Hannah, The Birthday Girl.

I’m so sorry, I forgot to wear my lipstick.

The friendly neighborhood.

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11:11 am  •  8 April 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

“ga, this is for you.”

“by the way, it’s gabby.” <3

8:34 am  •  6 April 2012  •  View comments

9:14 pm  •  30 March 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments

Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they conceal is vital. ~Aaron Levenstein

Whether you are preparing for Summer, getting ready for a trip to someplace warm, or live in a swimsuit year-round locale, shopping for a new swim suit is generally not on the top of our Fun Things To Do list. We can’t even count the number of times we’ve gone shopping for swimwear and purchased shoes instead!

Right now, one of the biggest trends in designer swimwear is mixing and matching swimsuit separates. Without a doubt, the mix and match swimwear trend is definitely one of the more practical swim trends around and the designers are starting to take note. More and more designers are creating collections with styles that are designed to be mixed and matched. In this economy, a whole new swimsuit may not always be in your budget, so this trend is a great way to make use of swimwear separates that you already own. Everyone’s body types and fashion tastes are different and mixing and matching swimwear is a great way to create your own unique look. Furthermore, it’s a fun new way to test out your skills as a fashion stylist! There are different ways to mix and match swimwear and I’ll show you how.

Solids and Prints

Mixing solids with prints is one of the most popular and classic mix and match swimwear looks. By choosing a print that has a hint of the solid color in it, you’re sure to get one put-together mix and match look. If you pair a solid top with a printed bottom, it works particularly well for apple-shaped or inverted triangle-shaped body types, especially if you go dark up top. On the other hand, if you go for a printed top with a solid swimsuit bottom, it works really well for pear-shaped or triangle-shaped body types, especially if you go dark on the bottom.

Prints and Prints

Just like in the general fashion world, men and women everywhere are throwing out the rule books and mixing different prints together. By mixing and matching swimwear styles with different prints, you can create a trendy high-fashion look. Get creative with your swimwear style and pair florals with paisleys, geometric prints with chevron stripes, or come up with a combo all your own. However, this mix and match swimwear look is strictly for the bold fashionistas; since the look may appear to clash to most people, you must be prepared to make a fashion statement and rock it proudly!

Solids and Solids

Finally, the last way to do the mix and match swimwear trend is to pair solids with solids. Traditionally, we have seen this look with black and white separates, or with a black or white separate mixed with one other color. Another common way to mix solids with solids is to match up the same color from two different swimwear brands; my rule of thumb is if you try on the combo in a sunny room and it appears to be the same or very similar, then you’re good to go. Although many may argue that the top or bottom must have a detail or embellishment featuring the other solid color, mixing and matching two contrasting solids is becoming increasingly popular in the swimwear world. In fact, I’ve been seeing the look pop up on beaches and pool-sides everywhere. By mixing and matching two contrasting colors, it can create an interesting color block effect.

Whichever combo you choose, you’re sure to have the mix and match swimwear
trend down pat!

SUSAN BODACK is an expert in swim fashion at InStyleSwimwear.com, a luxury online boutique of chic designer swimwear, beachwear, and accessories

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1:37 am  •  20 March 2012  •  View comments

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12:33 am  •  15 March 2012  •  1 note  •  View comments